04.11.2016

Five Things I Have Discovered About Myself… And What I Have Learned From Them

As we get older, we often begin to identify certain traits about ourselves that maybe we overlooked when we were younger.  I think sometimes we can be reluctant to focus on our weaknesses, but becoming more aware of mine has help me to improve them and realize that they are part of what makes me… me!  He are five things that I have discovered about myself:

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I CAN BE A MESSY PERSON

This one was hard for me to actually admit. In my heart I am a Type A personality, and I desperately want to have a perfectly tidy home.  Plus I actually enjoy organizing and tidying.  I wish I could be one of those people who put things back in their place immediately after they use them.  But instead I set it down somewhere, and then a little pile grows, and then I have to go around and pick up the piles.  I KNOW it would be easier if I put things away as I went, but I just can’t manage to do it.

When I try to tackle housecleaning without a game plan I often get overwhelmed.  I am trying to make it a part of my daily schedule and I include it in my planner, allotting it a specific time to be completed.  That way if Monday’s job is dusting I can focus on that task ONLY, and not be distracted by vacuuming because I know that it will be done on Tuesday.  It is definitely still a work in progress, but it has helped me not be overwhelmed.

I AM A PLEASER

I was a little surprised to learn this about myself, because I can also be somewhat argumentative.  But I have always hated confrontation, so I guess it makes sense.  I very much want to keep people happy… I am the positive one, the peacekeeper, the negotiator.  Sometimes to much so.  Arguments can be healthy (not always, but some), and avoiding them can keep you from growth and change.

This has been hard for me to work on because most of the time I don’t even realize I am doing it. But I am more conscious if it now, and I know it will be a good exercise for me to learn to tackle an argument instead of glossing over it.

I CAN BE FORGETFUL

I didn’t used to be… I never had to keep a planner or write anything down.  But now, if I don’t make note of something I am not going to remember it.  Period.

I have always kept a simple planner for appointments, but I am beginning to learn that I need a nice planner and I need to have it with me ALL THE TIME.  If I write it on a note I will lose the note.  Make your planner like a part of your body and look at it often.

I NEED LOTS OF SLEEP

A lot. I have always been that way, but as life gets busier and I try to cram more into each day my sleep seems to suffer.  Which makes so many other things suffer too.  I am trying to get better at making sleep a priority for the sake of my wellbeing.

As tempting as it is to come home from work and just crash, I try to frontload my evening as much as possible.  I try to get my tasks done when I first get home, then I am able to shower earlier and watch some TV with my hubby, while still getting to bed at a decent hour.

I AM A HOMEBODY

I have always been more content to be home with a book or TV show than out at an event or party.  For the longest time I thought that this was just a personality trait and I needed to push myself to get out more.  However, as life has gotten busier I now realize that for introverts being at home is how we recharge.  We are not refueled or invigorated by activity, but by quiet and alone time.

If you are an introvert and you have a busy lifestyle you must learn to say no to some things. Taking time to recharge your batteries is essential.  There have been times that I have had to say no to an invitation because I knew it was time for me to be home.  People think I’m weird, but I’m ok with that… I know I need it.

Well, you have gotten a little peek inside my mind today.  Hopefully this may be of help if any of you share some of these same traits.  What things do you do to help challenge yourself in the areas you struggle?

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Comments

  1. I like the efforts you have put in this, thanks for all the great content.

    • jilliandanielle says:

      Thank you! I enjoy my blog and it is such a pleasure to watch it grow. I appreciate your kind words!

  2. Fellow introvert over here too! And I procrastinate on cleaning and avoid confrontation. And like pleasing people. Could have written this post myself basically. 😉 Great post!

  3. Fellow introvert over here too! And I procrastinate on cleaning and avoid confrontation. And like pleasing people. Could have written this post myself basically. 😉 Great post!

  4. There are many things I would love to fix about myself that would make it easier for me to live with me, but the number one thing I would love to fix is, I NEED TO GO TO BED EARLIER!!! I find that being a night owl is like an addiction – you can swear you’re not going to do it and do okay for just a little while, but then some evening event or activity will have you up late out of necessity and the next thing you know, you have fallen off the wagon and are back to staying up until all hours again. Very annoying. Also, I have evolved to the chore per day idea that you mentioned: dust one day, vacuum the next day, etc. I think it really helps. Some weeks it just doesn’t work and I end up having to do a bunch of stuff on one day, but then I try to get back to my routine as soon as I can. As much as I love a clean house, I’m just too creative for that – there are way too many things going on around here at the same time!

  5. There are many things I would love to fix about myself that would make it easier for me to live with me, but the number one thing I would love to fix is, I NEED TO GO TO BED EARLIER!!! I find that being a night owl is like an addiction – you can swear you’re not going to do it and do okay for just a little while, but then some evening event or activity will have you up late out of necessity and the next thing you know, you have fallen off the wagon and are back to staying up until all hours again. Very annoying. Also, I have evolved to the chore per day idea that you mentioned: dust one day, vacuum the next day, etc. I think it really helps. Some weeks it just doesn’t work and I end up having to do a bunch of stuff on one day, but then I try to get back to my routine as soon as I can. As much as I love a clean house, I’m just too creative for that – there are way too many things going on around here at the same time!

  6. Tanya says:

    Hi Jill! I LOVE this post! I relate 100% to every one of these “traits.”
    I need to get better at the planner. I’ve been trying for a couple of years now. I start out strong for a month or two, and eventually I quit. You are right about keeping it close, that is when it works. I set it down for a day or two, and I never pick it up again. I am working on setting up my own desk/office area with hopes of wanting to use it.
    I’ve tried to leave a comment in the past (I need some blogging lessons) so I hope you get this one.

    • Thank you! 🙂 Before I have always been the same with the planner… I stuck with it for a few months then quit. This is the fist year I have used it consistently, and it has really made a difference. I would LOVE to have a desk space at home, I bet yours will look great! If you have any more issues with commenting let me know, in case I need to change anything on the site. I want to make sure it is easy for everyone.

  7. Tanya says:

    Hi Jill! I LOVE this post! I relate 100% to every one of these “traits.”
    I need to get better at the planner. I’ve been trying for a couple of years now. I start out strong for a month or two, and eventually I quit. You are right about keeping it close, that is when it works. I set it down for a day or two, and I never pick it up again. I am working on setting up my own desk/office area with hopes of wanting to use it.
    I’ve tried to leave a comment in the past (I need some blogging lessons) so I hope you get this one.

    • Thank you! 🙂 Before I have always been the same with the planner… I stuck with it for a few months then quit. This is the fist year I have used it consistently, and it has really made a difference. I would LOVE to have a desk space at home, I bet yours will look great! If you have any more issues with commenting let me know, in case I need to change anything on the site. I want to make sure it is easy for everyone.

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